Being honest with yourself? I guess that is the most difficult part of a life journey. People can be deceitful with anyone in the world, but being the same with oneself is a different story altogether. The bravest thing to do is to be honest with yourself. It’s the state where you can straight look into the mirror into your eyes with full confidence. It is a feeling where you can be proud of yourself for having been true to yourself and honest with your endeavours. Yes, being honest with yourself can be a challenge, but it has unbeatable rewards. This comes with abundant positivity in your life.
“I aim to become a successful singer in life.”
“I wish to get into the University of my dreams.”
You might have tons of such wishes. However, ask yourself honestly, are you really giving the efforts you need to?
An instance where you are honest to no one, including you:
Let me tell you an incident where – you might be able to relate to it.
Somebody might have asked for help from you, and you might have promised them that you would do it. Suddenly, you face a problem, and instead of admitting the difficulty, you ghost him/her. Problem or not, you suddenly change your mind to not offer your help anymore, in spite of knowing the other person totally relied on you. You stop receiving the calls and also don’t respond. You totally disappear instead of honestly telling him/her what the problem is. In such an instance, you are not honest with the other person and with yourself as well.
The day you will realise what you have done, you will be ashamed to even look at the mirror. This is an instance where you are not honest with yourself.
An instance you are not honest to yourself:
Now, let’s tweak the situation a little. You respond to the other person and admit that you can help at the last moment. You give a made-up reason which is totally false. In this situation, the other person might feel you are honest, but are you really so? When you had the possibility to help and had given your words, do you think you have been true to yourself? This is an instance where you are absolutely not honest with yourself.
Why is being honest with yourself so important
Being honest with yourself is above all. The only person you can’t lie to is the one you see in the mirror. The most passionate relation you can ever have is with yourself. Coming to professional lives, you can reach greater heights and achieve fulfilling careers. For that, you need to be honest with yourself about what you truly want. You work every day, earn salaries, take care of societal norms, take responsibility for your family and do every sort of thing which are considered to be part of your “duty”.
Take a step back and ask yourself honestly, are you really living your life in the way you want? You pretend to be happy in your life. But, are you really happy with your life? When you are not honest with yourself you lead a life of compromise and discontent, no matter how much finances you have. You never attain the state of peace.
With being honest with yourself, you can gain compassion, self-esteem and confidence to achieve anything you want. You develop an unshakeable faith over yourself and the Universe. Researchers have also observed that people who are honest and practice integrity have greater longevity. Being honest in both your personal and professional lives, you can achieve a higher sense of fulfilment.
If you are not honest with yourself, here are the consequences
- Lead a compromised life
- Lack sleep
- Remain dull and gloomy all the time
- Compare yourself with others
- Lack of happiness and peace within
- Mentality of scarcity
- Failing relationships
- Physical ailments like heart beat increase and high blood pressure
Well, the list goes on when you can’t be honest with yourself.
Before learning to be honest with anyone, try to be honest with yourself first. You can’t be honest to anyone else unless you are not honest with yourself.
Learn 6 ways to be honest to yourself
1. Stop Self sabotaging
Do you limit yourself from going towards success because you are afraid to take the risk? Do you fear the unknown and discomfort of taking the big leap? Nothing comes free of cost in this world and if your dreams are big, you will have to go through bigger changes. Do remember, change is preceded with chaos because the situation changes to settle into something else. This might lead to discomfort. Accept these and move ahead with strength.
2. Nothing for next year
If you have afforded to dream it now, why start it later? Just so because you are comfortable in this plateau of your life, doesn’t mean you can push your dreams until tomorrow. The bigger lie to yourself is “I will do it tomorrow”. This is just giving excuses to yourself.
3. Confess to your mistakes
If you have made a mistake at work or in relationships, confess it. Stand up to it. Else, you are literally going to lose sleep down the line. Speak up and then learn from your mistakes.
4. Be self aware
“You know better than myself”. This is the biggest fault of not being honest. You should know yourself the best and better than anyone else in this world, even your loved ones. Self-awareness is a rare trait for humans. Adopt it first. Be aware of your faults, weaknesses and strengths. Be aware of what you truly want and know yourself in and out.
5. It’s okay not to know everything
We haven’t been born to learn. It’s okay to not be perfect or be a geek knowing all. Embrace a learning mentality and that’s how you can grow. Small steps add up to a bigger dream.
6. Do not settle for less
Yes, you don’t have to wait for that big opportunity to first come in for you to take action. Start planning and taking action right from today. Stay self-motivated. But, do not settle for anything less than you desire or deserve. If you believe you are meant for that big goal, you can choose to push that small opportunity. Do not force yourself to accept something that you feel is lesser than your limits.
If you are finding all of the points for the first time, then you have got some work to do. If you truly want to achieve a life you desire and be proud of yourselves, you got to be honest. It’s also the other way round.
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